Stress and Weight Loss
Well, I guess I’m going to ramble on here for a few minutes. Those of you who read, thank you, and I apologize for the lack of direction right from the start. I’m in WW and I weigh in today which for the first time, I’m very nervous about. Yesterday, I found out that my hubby is moving out of his gf’s house and into his mother’s house. I know I haven’t mentioned the “other woman” so far, but there is one. I didn’t realize that this change was going to affect me nearly as much as it has. It has been devestating that he walked out on us 2 weeks ago for another woman (and whatever other “reasons” are going through his head), but in some ways this is messing with me even worse. He hasn’t talked to me hardly at all since he left. I don’t know if he is going to want to work things out. I don’t know if I’m going to want to either. I don’t know if it even can be worked out. On top of all of this, I still don’t have a place to move to. That is stressing me out big time. I just want to move and start getting settled before school starts in 3 weeks. It isn’t going to happen.
For the first time since all of this has been happening, I ate, and ate, and ate. I’m so mad at myself because I KNOW better!! I’m probably going to see a gain tonight at WW for the first time since I started 9 weeks ago. That makes me so mad at myself! I understand that I eat when I’m stressed, and I’ve certainly had a large helping of stress lately!! Life is going to continue to be stressful for a long time yet, and I cannot give up on getting this weight off just because life is happening! Now it is even more important to me than ever that I maintain control of my eating and my life. My kids are counting on just me now, and I have to be there now and for a long long time.
I keep telling my mom to suck it up and go to the meeting even if she knows she has gained. I have already heard my words returned to me this time! I guess it is time to suck it up and do it anyway. I will take the hit on my outstanding record, but then it is time to move on and get busy losing again. I only have myself to blame for not doing my very best. I definitely didn’t do my part this week. Hopefully, the scale doesn’t punish me too badly tonight!!
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Hang in there Beebee. Take care of the moment, maybe a little exercise/strength training type and use those calories to build some muscle. So good for stress relief. You sound like a terrific Mom so take care of her too
All the best…..
Argh @ stress! You’ve definitely got more than your fair share of it going on right now, too. It is so dang hard to not eat when stressing like that. Don’t beat yourself up about what you’ve done though, just get out there and take control now. Wishing you the best. :o)
You hang in there girlfriend! It is a hard road, and men don’t help matters none. However, I’m impressed with your strength to have the desire to lose it with such heartache and stress in your life. Been there, done that, and still struggling with the man issue. But you can do this. You can pull yourself together and make it. Take the “N” out of MEN and focus on the “ME” right now in your life. Work it and show the world your strength and that you can blossom and show the world the beautiful woman that you are! (((Hugs))) You are amazing and you deserve to bet treated much better!
Everyone here is right, exercise is the best way to deal with stress! I would get your butt moving and def keep up with WW, you can do this! When things tend to get stressful and it seems like one thing is piling up after another, I often find it helpful to just focus on one thing at a time. (While keeping your diet in mind) def focus on your living situation, get those kids ready for school! And dont shoot me for saying this, but success comes in cans, not in can nots, you can do this!
Bless your sweet heart. I’m so sorry to hear about all this you’re going through. You are such a strong woman, don’t ever forget that! Don’t be too hard at yourself for eating through your stress - sometimes we need a little comfort food as we face these challenges. But don’t give up either. Come to the Lord, and He will guide you in your trials. Things will work out in the end.
You are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care girl!
Life has a way of knocking us down big time, doesn’t it? Well, I know that you will move forward. I am sorry you have to be going through this right now. Don’t beat yourself up for eating certain things. You know what to do and I know you will do it. All the besst to you and if you ever want to talk, hit me up.
Beebee…its ok that you slipped on the eating. God knows you’ve been through so much lately. The important thing is that you KNOW what you did wrong, and you want to make it right
I would go to the meeting…the worst is a little gain. That’ll get you even more motivated to work hard again!!
Your in my heart and prayers…you have a good day..Big Hugs for you !!!
Beebee, I was in the middle of responding to your blog when we had an earthquake.
I can say I was in your shoes and know your pain, minus the children part. I am so so sorry you are going through this ordeal.
I found out my husband was cheating on me when his “GIRLFRIEND” wrote me, his wife and woman of 10 yrs telling me they’ve been together for 4 months and she wanted to “get” some information from me. She said we were in the process of divorce, one I wasn’t aware of. But even after that and moving out, it took me another year and 70 lbs lighter before I allowed myself to let go of him. We went through months and months of attempts at reconciliation. But in the end I knew I was worth more than what he was offering. My divorce was finalized in June and I’m finally happy.
Beebee, you deserve more than this. You are a beautiful person. Take care of you and your children.
Your stress level will increase but it will get easier with each passing day. It will be hard but you are a strong woman and you will make it.
I will keep you in my prayer and a million hugs to you.
I too know your pain. Please hang in there and keep doing what you know is right for you. And don’t beat yourself up when you slip. Hugs and prayers for you.
Ok, no more blaming yourself. What’s done is done. Really give your weight loss a fair chance becuase if anything it will give you a chance to get your mind off your hubby and the GF or whatever. Weight loss is something that you and you alone can control. Don’t let what your hubby did break you or break your spirit. Don’t let him see that. Let him see how improved you are and how you are doing better without him. Sometimes the best revenge is to do better. Hang in there girl.
BeeBee everyone at one time or another has eaten through a trial or some pain. Do not get upset with yourself about that. Just keep those days far and few between and you will be ok.
It is hard to come on here and be honest and upfront. But what we learn by doing that is that there are others who understand and have been in your place. One was already shared here. I too was there. In 2004 I found out about my previous husbands infidelity. I tried to work it out and give him a chance to make it right, but sometimes you cannot and should not. He left in April of 2006 and I too held onto the “want” for him. I am not sure why now.I think looking back it was fear of being alone. But let me tell you, when I learned what scum he was and how strong I was I stood up, brushed myself off and stepped forward. Granted I might have fallen a few times, but the point is I got up and moved forward. You have to stay strong for your kids. You deserve better for yourself. Please do what is best for you, and only you know what that is, but do not stay or try and keep him because of fear. I took 9 months to heal before allowing myself to date. When I was ready I met Trent a recently divorced man with three little kids he has full custody of and we started dating. We married last year and as you know had a baby together in May. I am so happy. I guess my point is this…this too shall pass. All you can do is stay strong for you, work on your and your family and never forget your self worth. You are stronger than you think.
Yes, most of us have gone thru the infidelity thing and it hurts to put it mildly. I pray you will heal and move onto the great life that’s in store for you. You may have fell off the wagon today but the important thing is you know it. Don’t let one small mistake take away all the accomplishments you have made.Get back on and enjoy what may be the ride of your life.