Why is it Different This Time?
I have been seriously trying to figure out what is different this time than every other time I have tried to lose weight. Before, when I would try to lose, my now ex-hub would usually try with me. That is cool I think. What isn’t cool is that he turned into the food police. It didn’t take very long at all that I felt belittled for every little thing I did. It was either that way, or he would bring home “treats” that were horrible horrible for anyone. If I ever succeeded (which wasn’t often) in losing weight, he would get insecure with me looking good. It was all very subtle at the time. I can see it way better now than I used to be able to.
This time is completely different. If I set my mind that I’m going to do it, I will. I won’t get it perfectly the first time. Maybe not even the 20th time, but I keep trying and I do continue to get it better. Since the first couple weeks past, I really do feel like this time will be different. Hubby is completely supportive without trying to police me. I’m not saying he is perfect either because he is still fighting his own motivation at the moment, so he will tempt me to not do what I promised myself that I would. I guess I’m at peace inside, so I think that in turn shows as confidence on the outside. I know I can do this, and that is just all there is to it.
Now, right after getting really good at this weight loss thing, I ended up pregnant. I’m six weeks right now. Before, I would have told myself I was defeated. I obviously won’t be able to lose weight now of all times!! That isn’t how I see it though. The best way to grow a healthy baby is to be a healthy mama. I think of my baby first. I’m not trying to lose weight. That is kind of silly for now. What I will be doing is to continue to build my body into a strong, healthy body. I’m doing this by exercising within pregnancy limitations and eating healthily. I’m still tracking what I’m eating, but my calorie intake is slightly higher than if I were eating just for me. That is ok. I’m filling all those calories with whole grains, fruits, veggies, and proteins. I drink water only all day long except for one small glass of OJ in the morning. Oh, that OJ tastes so good in the morning! Love it!
Anyway, in 7.5 months when this baby is born will be the best reward for staying on task! I had a lot of motivation when this was just a journey of self-improvement. Now it is for the two of us!! After he/she is born, I will pick right back up with losing weight! I told hubby that I’m going to get back on the Wildcats team right before the baby is born so I can lose 20-30 lbs in a week or two. 
I guess the moral of my story is that I think that having inner peace is the key to keep on keeping on. Also, beware of negitivity around you because I think it affects us way more than we know!
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Wow, your transformation is amazing. Yes, healthy mama makes healthy baby. So very proud of you, and after the baby is born, all the work you are doing now will help so much in getting back in shape and recovering sooner! Good job!
Amen about the negativity! Congrats on the baby…count your blessings.
I understand your husband feeling insecure about your weight loss. My husband has only known me at 220 or above. He has only seen pictures of the thin me. I think he thinks if I lose this weight that I won’t need him anymore (he’s said it jokingly a couple of times so you know the thought is up there running around), but I didn’t marry him because he would marry me. I married him because I love him which means he does not have ONE thing to worry about except of course that all the guys will be wolf whistling at me when I walk by (as if!!!!)
He needs to lose about 30 lbs and informed me this morning that he is joining me on Monday in my weight loss efforts.
I am insanely excited for you Bebee. We only get pregnant a few times in life and it’s crucial to be healthy for your baby while being pregnant. You are working on building a foundation of health for a little one. Here is a true meaning of a saying that everything is connected.
I guess your husband cherishes you and supports your efforts to be healthy THE BEST WAY HE CAN.
Tatiana
CONGRATULATIONS! On both the baby and the new you! Such exciting times and what incentive to keep on a super healthy track. Wishing you every happiness and a trouble free and easy pregnancy.
Suzanne.
You are doing an awesome job…glad to hear that your hubby is getting better too!!!!
Being healthy is the greatest gift you can give your baby…
Best of luck…
~~~~ShArky~~~~
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I am with you BeeBee as I am pregnant too and am instructed to stop losing weight. But what i am working towards is developing good and healthy eating habits so that when the baby is born We can step right up and hopefully see the weight come right off….I am with you all the way! PS>..do you have a preference. Boy/Girl?